The biggest breakthroughs I’ve had in my desires to have it all—the partner, the purpose and connection to myself
Haven’t come as a result of working directly in sessions with a coach or therapist
~They came through holding myself with awareness, groundedness and Love
~While learning through books and then experiencing that understanding as I made direct contact with Life
~And by living my value of Courage in letting everything become my teacher
The truth is
For a long time
I resisted a lot of what those coaches and therapists were trying to reveal to me
I was in ego mind
I was trapped in being a victim
Getting triggered by old and new wounds
Unable to move through the resistance
I was mistrustful of my teachers (at times for helpful reasons)
And I honestly wasn’t in a place where I could have major breakthroughs
Despite what my mind wanted
And ultimately, I was crushed by the perceived immensity of what I wanted
By all the obstacles that were created by those desires (mostly generated by my mind)
Like “I’m not worthy of having it all” and
“I have to work through so much stuff before I can have what I want”
And by how long I thought getting it all would take
~So, I learned to humbly walk my path instead
~I learned to unhook from my ego mind
~And I was led to the truth that it wasn’t about getting all the things—the partner and the purpose
But to begin living and acting as the woman I most want to be within the relationship with a partner, a purpose and myself
~And I kept getting better and better and better at surrendering to everything—including the desire for breakthroughs!
And through that, I learned to experience breakthroughs on my own and ultimately
I learned to become my own coach
Because the thing is
All those things that a coach might intuit about what’s happening for you
Your blocks or blind spots
You already know what they are!
They’re already floating around in your consciousness
You’re just so hooked by them that you think they are you!
And you can learn the skills to separate yourself from them
To hold yourself courageously enough to see them without judgment
And to continue to take action that’s fueled by how you want to live this Life—which are your desired Values
Deep down you know yourself better than any coach ever could
You know the things that you hide from others
You know what hooks you
What triggers you
What stops you dead in your tracks
Even if you’re not fully conscious of them right now
And most practically
Why rely on others to hold space for the obstacles that inevitably pop up (for all of us!), when you’re with yourself all of the time
Why get wrapped up in coaching (or therapy!) for years
Rehashing the same issues
And feeling disempowered in that endless process and
Creating more unhelpful fusion with your mind
And so
I’m inviting you to take the first step to
Become your own coach
By joining me for a free, hour-long Valued Direction Discovery session over Zoom
In this session you will uncover
~What you want
And more importantly
~You will discover your Values—which are how you want to act as you move toward what you want
To live your values means you are Living and acting as the person you most want to be in Life
The kind of person you’d be proud of on your deathbed (yes, it’s that serious)
Whether it’s someone who acted with Integrity and kindness as Life threw challenge after challenge at him while he lived his Purpose
Or someone who acted with loving Boldness in their partnership—practicing opening their heart over and over and over again, while also honoring their boundaries
Or someone who treated herself with self-compassion and self-respect and self-love as she moved through old programming, ancient wounds and unhelpful thoughts on her way to becoming her most beloved Guide, coach and friend
Discovering your values means you get clarity and direction and perpetual guidance in living a life saturated with aliveness and purpose and meaning
No matter what you are getting
~In this session you will also become aware of the (totally normal!) obstacles that you face on your path to living in your desired valued directions
Which means you will be growing in and using the power of awareness and thereby using everything to help you in living a values-guided Life
~You’ll also be lovingly held as you learn all the things you do (that we all do!) to manage the discomfort that comes up in response to the obstacles
Which means you get an experience of empowering awareness that’s needed to notice what’s taking you off your path and gives you the choice to reorient yourself back onto it
~You’ll also learn about the self-empowerment skills that I teach to hold yourself in the midst of whatever obstacles come up and to handle them
Which means you have the opportunity to begin learning the skills to become your own coach, so that you can continue to walk your unique path
~If it feels energetically right, I will ask if you would like to coach with me to begin learning and experiencing the foundational skills to become your own coach
Yes—I will ask you to work with me as a coach, while telling you that you ultimately don’t need one!
I’m offering this possibility because I know that it’s helpful to have someone who’s already become their own coach create the context in which others can become their own coaches too
~Your Yes or No to this question will be respected, and whatever you choose, you will leave the session with your values—your intentions for how you want to live this Life—uncovered
Which means you get to experience the value of self-empowerment in your decision and I get to experience my value of Integrity in offering you a choice and respecting your decision
In offering these free sessions while releasing the outcome, I will also be living my value of spreading self-empowerment in this world
And so, would you like to have a Valued Direction Discovery session with me?
Would you like to uncover your desires and most importantly, how you’d like to act and what you’d like to stand for as you walk toward them?
Would you like to learn about the skills to become your own coach?
If your answer is yes, please email me saying that you’re interested in having the free, hour-long Valued Direction Discovery session with me and I’ll respond so that we can set up time to have it
I have space in my Life to work with just four new people, so if your answer is yes to the session, email me as soon as you can
May you continue to grow in clear-direction, Awareness and open-heartedness as you live this precious Life 🙌🏻✨❤️
Much love,
Lauren
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In the video below, I share with you a bit more about the journey to becoming my own coach and the invitation to join me in a Valued Direction Discovery session ✨❤️