The truth is I’m a facilitator of self-empowerment

At one time I was tempted to say that I’m a healer

And if I’m being compassionately honest—that feels too lofty, and gives birth to disempowering thoughts and implications

If I work with someone who considers themselves a healer

My mind will generate unhelpful thoughts such as

“They’re better or more developed than me”

“I’m giving away my power”

“I can’t take care of myself”

“I’m not enough, damaged, broken”

I throw out all these thoughts our minds might say to working with someone on our Life path who says they heal

Because I’ve thought and felt them all

Over and over again

And the thing is, when I fuse with those unhelpful thoughts, they get in the way of any work I’ll do with this person, and they block me from building a vital life

I used to put my own coaches up on pedestals

And my mind used comparisons to them to create thoughts that tore me to shreds because I bought into them

I even considered a former therapist as a healer

And it caused me to stay with her for years and years

Addicted to her supportive form of therapy/healing

And yet through that relationship I was blessed to finally wake up to the fact that I had been acting like a victim, and I was blaming everything outside of me for my troubles

Instead of honoring and putting my attention on the things that I can control—my actions and my awareness

And so in my ever-deepening Life-path

~I powerfully learned that I can’t control my thoughts and feelings, but I can choose to relate to them in a healthy and useful way that has me continue to act in ways that align with who I want to be

~I can’t control what others do, but I can influence them in ways that are respectful to me and them, and release the outcome

~I can’t stop unpleasant things from happening, but I can choose to trust Life and find the growth opportunities that lie within every challenge

I wouldn’t be able to effectively teach self-empowerment concepts and skills to others without meeting my darkness and learning them firsthand

Only by expanding to be with and include my full experience without falling into those feelings or avoiding them, unhooking from unhelpful thoughts, being in-the-moment as my Self, knowing what I wish to develop in myself and taking increasing action to live in those ways, can I truly teach someone else

As much as my mind wanted me to be a perfect coach who has it all figured out

The truth is I’m not fully capable of holding space for others to learn self-empowerment until I’ve experienced both the pain and joy of being alive, feeling the full range of human emotions without getting swallowed up by them—learning how to be with all of myself and how to build a vital life through it all

It was never about being a perfect coach

Or getting all my goals and desires in just the way I want them (if at all)

The truth is I’m human and I will mess up again and again as I live my Life; I’ll repeatedly get hooked by painful thoughts and feelings, and I won’t act like the sort of woman I want to be

And yet when those things happen, I can choose to unhook, to be compassionate with myself, to reconnect with what I value and to act in ways that are meaningful to me

Even though those things won’t stop happening, I can get better and better at making the pivots that have me live a full Life

This is self-empowerment

To pull away from the unhelpful content of our experience, and live consciously and with aliveness in the full context

As I empower myself, I teach self-empowerment to others so they can change their relationship to painful and unhelpful thoughts and feelings; to live rich, full and meaningful lives no matter what is happening, while acting like the people they want to be ✨✨

And as I consider what I’m about to write next, I notice that I’m having a feeling of nervousness that’s centered in my upper chest, that feels like heartburn and is a pale yellow orb with rays that softly emanate outward

And as I choose to let this uncomfortable feeling be there without letting it take me over, I’m able to re-connect with my values of courage, authenticity and self-empowerment

And now I’m able to ask: if you’re reading these words and they resonate with you

Are you ready to take back and develop your power?

If yes, please email me to set up a time to connect over video

During this free time together, we will explore what you’ve been wanting in your life, what the barriers are to those things and the way of self-empowerment

At the end of our time you can decide to begin working with me to build self-empowerment skills, or not

And if the answer to my earlier question is no and what you need right now are the words that I’ve written, May you easily use them to empower yourself!

For I can and do live my value of self-empowerment in more ways than coaching—in the words I write, the simplest things I say to others and when I practice the skills myself

And as I take the self-empowering action of powerfully being with my full experience, I’m able to act like the woman I want to be ✨